sleeping habbits

Adler use to be the best when it came to bed time. I could just lay her down in her bed and close the doors and walk away. I am not sure how we morphed into the crazy bedtime habits we have now. i would love to roll back the clock and break these habits. i know they are as much-if not more-my fault than hers as i let her get away with it. hell i slept in Rigby's bed for over 2 years, so i don't have a good track record. these days we all go into Rigby's room and listen to stories. then i kiss and close the door on Rigby and Adler and i go back out to the living room and snuggle on the couch 'till she falls asleep in my arms. this is not so bad, it is this newer development that has me at wits end. now she will wake up anywhere between midnight and 3am and i can get up and comfort her and hold her till she goes back to sleep but the minute i lay her back down in her bed she wakes and throws a fit which include screaming and blubbering. I know this started on vacation as i was trying to keep her quite with us all crammed in one room and the rest of the family just a paper thin wall away i was trying to keep her quite so i brought her to bed with daddy and I. well now that is the only way to shut her up. the minute she lays down and feels me laying next to her she is off to la-la land. i don't know how to break this with out a lot of screaming and crying from both of us and waking up the entire house. UGH!!!